Who do you turn to when you need help crafting a break-up song? It's safe to say that few have experienced the turmoil of failed relationships more than Phil. His three marriages and subsequent divorce settlements have cost him nearly £42 million. But was all that heart ache, pain, and check writing for naught? According to Phil - No. In fact he credits his first divorce for the direction his solo career took which according to phil would have been jazz-rock focused had his relationship with Andrea Bertorelli not ended. The first song inspired by his divorce was the epic, Against All Odds. And who among us hasn't dropped a girlfriend off at the airport and spent the entire drive home sobbing like a little girl with a skinned knee and listening to that song on repeat? Anyways...I stumbled upon this radio show last week, and although it's a few years old, it's worth a listen.
After a bad break-up, Starlee Kine finds so much comfort in break-up songs that she tries to write one herself, and gets help from Phil Collins.It wasn't until hearing the host and Phil both describe their breakups that I came to a startling revelation. My favorite part of any relationship, ever, has always been the end. My favorite part is the breakup. What's better than the self loathing feeling you get after a really bad heart break? Nothing makes me feel more alive than listening to Air Supply's All Out of Love, Against All Odds, Will Never Marry, followed by the entire catalog of Dashboard Confessional. There's no better feeling than sitting on your living room floor, unshaven and un-showered for days - filling your empty bottle of Ketel One with your own tears of regret. Watching High Fidelity and Swingers for hours upon lonely hours. Losing it all. Faith. Self Dignity. About fifteen pounds. (Side note, if swimsuit season is right around the corner, and you want to tighten up that core - go ahead and breakup with your girlfriend, you'll have six pack abs before you know it) I suppose you could make the argument that if you're the one instigating the break up it won't have the same effect. Sabotaging relationships, that's the way to go. I'm a little upset that I'm not in a position to be dumped right now. Depressing music never sounds better than when you're truly depressed. But enough about me, have a listen:
Dr. Phil Collins
Original story at Public Radio International.